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Tuesday, August 16, 2011

pressing matters. what to do. soccer, ballet, preschool...???

Ok, obviously I know its insane to sign your 3.5 yr old up for multiple activities at once, and obviously I know it won't make her a genius or Olympic athlete (or will it;) but I have a delema.  Adi is in love with ballet and has no intention of taking a break.  I love soccer and have every intention of making her at least try to play.  And maybe I have been waiting 4 yrs since I knew I was going to have a kid to sign that kid up for soccer. I kinda believe I was made to be a soccer mom (or track mom, either way;)

So, Adi is now old enough to play little kickers in  the fall, sign ups are happening now, it's cheap and only one 30 min practice and one 30 min game a week.  Here's the thing, she is going to preschool, real deal all day 5 days a week preschool (if she so chooses to go of course) and doing ballet.  Ballet meets once a week after school and soccer will be once a week after school and saturday mornings.

The obvious answer is to not do soccer. She loves Ballet, will probably hate soccer (the lack of skirts are already causing an uproar in every day conversation)and will love school.  But here's the thing,  I don't foresee a break in either Ballet or school anytime soon.  And I do feel strongly about at least exposing her to different activies.  

(Also, I know and see the argument of not doing organized sports at a young age. One thing I wish was different in my youth was doing sports earlier. Yes, I started running competitively at 9 yrs old and there were some seasons of tee ball in there in the early years. But it was not something I really got to do and really wished I had.   So, call it a complex if you will, but I plan on forcing encouraging my kids try out lots of things and hope something sticks:)

Ok, so it comes down to this, at some point soon Adi will be forced to try and play soccer. Obviously it would be easiest to not do ballet that season (but that would be extra torture for her )If she hates it then so be it.  Do I do it this fall or is that a bit of a full plate for a 3 yr old?

Besides...what if she loves it???



Friday, August 12, 2011

5 years later and still loving it all

 On August 11th 2006 a girl walked down a grassy path, barefoot, to marry the man of her dreams. 
A day dream't of for years only to put those dreams to shame.  The real thing was better than I ever wished.
 The 5 years of marriage equally amazing. 
 The blessing of two beautiful children,
 And I life I could never have imagined would be mine.
 Thank you Andy for marrying me.
Oh and 5 years later, same dress different sash. Happy Anniversary Andy. It gets better every year!

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

so the tables turn

The first blog back after what seems like a summer of nothing is the hardest, isn't it? Do I fill in the gaps or go with whats happening now? How about that goal to take pictures and at the very least add photos of my sweet kiddos? That sounds like a good place to start. Well, the broken camera seemed to fix itself(whew) but there don't seem to be an pictures, still.

Hmmmm, guess no one to blame but me. There goes that goal. How about onto the present?
Andy's back at work. Where did summer go?

Oh yeah, it went to moving and working and child rearing.  For the first time in 4 summers I think this summer really felt like we truely split the load. Meaning I worked out of the home while he worked in the home. Grant it I was FAR from full time this summer (and Andy was FAR from not working at all out of the home). But a whole heck of a lot more than before. Andy rocked out with the laundry, cleaning, moving, unpacking, taking the kids for ice cream part of parenting. And for the first time I wasn't counting the minutes until school started up again. I think we may be onto something here. Truly co- parenting in every sense. I like it!

Mean while I feel that deep sense of uggg way down in there. Summer is over, already?!

Yet, it is not. Doesn't August count for anything? Is 94* not hot enough to still be summer? This August I am not convincing myself that fall is nipping at my heels, because frankly that's what September is for.

When I was a kid school ended in June and began in September. That made sense, that it what I'm used to. But down here back to school shopping starts in July.  So while I'm not giving up on August, I am back to school shopping. This time, for Adi!

 Her closet is lined with blue jumpers and white polo's, there's a new sparkly pink lunch box hanging from her bed knob, and we've been writing our number and letters non stop for the last week. Watch out New Classical Academy, here comes Adi! Her pencils are sharpened and her shoes are fast!


Happy August y'all.

Wednesday, July 20, 2011

lame update

Thought it was about time I at least update that we are all moved into the new house. Big Blue, we call her. ( I just decided she was a girl, has a nice ring to it doesn't it).  Moving sucks. No other way to put it. The physical exhaustion was worse than I imagined. Grant it moving from a tiny apartment to a tiny house with no kids is a bit different than moving from a house to a bigger house with 2 kids, 2 dogs, and a cat.
 Sadly, the camera did not make the move in one piece. Man, I really hate it when electronics break, its like burning hundreds of dollars. Because even if your kid doesn't beam it into the hardwood floors, its bound to break or stop working eventually. Anyways, guess thats a story for another day.

Back to the move. I have no photos to show of it and none of the new house. We are somewhat settled in though, considering its only been 2 1/2 weeks.  Basically both Andy and I are unable to function if the house doesn't feel like home with in a day or two. So basically we have done nothing besides unpack and set up the house since we moved.

Andy did build a fence. A sweet little picket that wraps all the way around the .12 acres of our little yard. He impressed me, he really did. He dug something like 24 post holes (not to brag, but I did about a whooping 1 1/2 all on my own:)

The house is amazing. Totally an adult grown up house. All our furniture fits like it was always meant for the house. Mainly, I am loving living in a neighborhood. All the walking with the kids and dogs, all the runs discovering new streets lined with cute houses.

Until we can somehow get a new camera, my blogs will be kinda lame.

Thursday, June 30, 2011

night before moving

Last night in their room, and last night sharing a room, called for some dancing, snuggling and goofing. It's been a long day, and week, but I think we are all ready for the big move!
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Monday, June 27, 2011

We're moving

We are moving! Thats right, moving 10 minutes across town.  After months of house hunting, house obessing, house stalking, houses lost to other people, we finally found the one! The one we raise our kids in, the one we send them off to high school in, the grown up one.

It all started about 4 months ago when we went to look at an unfinished deserted "castle" as we called it. The price was astonishingly low, it was not done being built and it was basically the size of a castle, to Adi at least. We were curious to see what this market had so we went. It was pretty cool and definitely a steal, if you wanted to finish the floors and add a kitchen. But totally not us. Much to Adi's dismay we just couldn't live in such a garish house. Even when Adi sat on the front steps and pleaded "Daddy please buy me this castle."

The hunt was not supposed to continue, but it did. You can't show a lady some new digs then tell her no, can you? Adi fell in love with about 17 of them. Most of the ones with pink rooms or swing sets.  Andy fell in love with 2, I fell in love with 2, in total we lost 4 "dream houses" by thinking we had time to think in this market. We were reminded each time that a good property, priced right was gonna go fast. At least we were choosing good properties right?

Months went by, we looked at every house in and out of town. We were constantly torn between moving further out in the country with a little piece of "land" (like an acre or so to raise some veggies, chickens, and maybe even a goat) to the "hip" part of town where we could walk to restaurants, bars ( ha, like we ever get to go out), ice cream, you know the important things. The thing was, we weren't really hip enough to move to town. And our plan was always to move further from town.

Funny how plans work isn't it. We both new the second we walked in the house that we loved it and it was the one. It also doesn't hurt that its 1.8 miles away from the kids cousins, and our brother and sister in law of course. 

This new house doesn't come without heartache though. Leaving our neighborhood of Oteen will not be easy. I've made a list of all the things that we will always remember about this house and why it will be so hard to leave.

1. Our neighbors. About a year after we moved in the house across the street went up for sale. I immediately called my "first friend in asheville" Becca, who was looking to buy,  to come look. That night she bought it.  Her and her partner Dave, and roommate Lucy, have been the best neighbors a girl could ask for. In snow storms we always have someone to play board games and drink wine with, all summer long we have a classy above ground pool to swim in, BBQ's, morning coffee, seasons watching the bachelorette  while eating yummy baked goods, a built in dog sitter, cat sitter, house sitter, garden sitter, kid sitter, you name it! Walking to the brewery on Friday nights threw their back yard, stalking other neighbors, shooting street lights out that glare in to our bedroom windows. I guess this list could keep on going but they are neighbors and friends who can't be beat!  we will just have to make the 10 min drive to see each other now, but it won't be the same.

2. Our first house.
 3. House where we got married and came home to after our honey moon.

4. Where I labored all night in before Adi was born and the home we brought her home to.
5. Where all the labor of paperwork for Belay's adoption took place and the home we brought him home to.
6. The walls we painted and the wall paper we tore down.
7. The addition that was built during the end pf my pregnancy and into the first weeks of Adi's life. (Just imagine a newly breastfeeding mom, screaming infant, and men walking threw your living room with ladders)
8. The insane couple who built our back deck and tiled one of the bathrooms and all the insanity that came along with them.
9. BBQ'S on the back deck

10. the view from the back deck, there is NO other view like it.
11. bringing both our dogs home, as sweet puppies.
12. my constant rearranging that always drove andy crazy
13. The annual Yankee swap Christmas party with the most awful gift exchange ever.
14. All the old neighbors who moved out and all the fun new ones who moved in.
15. The trails behind our house, running, walking, taking the dogs, sledding down.
  walk with the dogs in the snow at 9 months pregnant.

16. The nature center being a 1/2 mile walk down the street.
17. The blue jean ball that take place every first weekend of June, too bad we have yet to go.
18. La Posada- best, quickest Mexican restaurant minutes away.
19. The small 900 sq ft 2 bedroom one bath that turned into a slightly less small 1200 sg ft 3 bed 2 bath house that is always forcing us to stay close together and cozy, and to constantly be de-cluttering.
20. Planting a tree over Adi's placenta, which has grown so big and strong over the last 3 years thanks to all the nutrients in her placenta being put back into the earth. Maybe we should bring this tree with us?
21. Planting the Pear  tree we were given as a house warming gift by Andy's mom.
22. Planting the Red Bud tree we were given as a wedding gift by our friend Karen. I don't suppose we should take all 3 tree's with us should we?

I'm pretty sure I could keep going, but I won't. This house will be missed. But the next house is awesome and I can't wait to get in it. The past few weeks have been hectic to say the least. Living in boxes and mess is not my forte. We should be in our new house by the weekend so we are trying to make these last few days good ones.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

The many moods of Belay

 Look how quickly he goes from this
 to this. (notice that little tiny dimple in his right cheek? like the kid needed any extra cuteness)